Tuesday, November 6, 2012

emotionally drained- update on mom

This post is really just to get things off my chest. I try to stay strong, do my best to get through these long days, but today it's hitting me. I hate cancer. I hate what I see it doing to my mom. I left work today to be with her because she was too tired to eat. I made her soup and re-filled her drink. As she sat up she gasped for air. She is having trouble breathing for some reason. She can't take deep breaths without sounding like she is hyperventilating. She has a chemo appointment tomorrow, so they are going to ask about that then. Due to Hurricane Sandy her immune system check up was cancelled but they will check it in the morning. I want to know why that's happening, why she can't breathe right. It's really unbearable to hear and see. My mom is strong, she is young, but this stupid cancer is taking it's toll. This is not her. I wanted to just sit there and talk to her- keep her company for awhile, but I had to run to get Addison. My life is running around. From work to photography to Addison, I barely have time for myself. I do my best to call my mom daily, but that's all I can do. Thankfully, my dad left work early and got there as I was leaving. She has nobody all day long, all week. She needs company, and at this point she really needs somebody there for her to cook her meals. It's not all the time that she feels this bad, some days are great, but lately there are more down times. 

Mom during second chemo

Taking it back a little-

A few weeks after my moms first chemo she began losing her hair. For women especially this side effect can be tough. I knew it would be very hard on my mom. She had a friend come over and shave her head one evening. I sat home, waiting to hear from my parents that it was done and to hear how my mom was doing with it. I logged onto FB and saw one of my moms good friends had posted this photo:

Not Alone

She had shaved her head and posted it for all to see, just to tell my mom she is NOT alone. I broke down into tears. This was the nicest thing I have ever seen first hand, somebody did this for MY mom. Truly touching and remarkable. There are no other words. Her friends have been there for her every step, and we couldn't have made it this far without them, that I'm sure. Seeing that gave my mom the strength to face this hurdle straight on. Not long after her head was shaved she posted this:

With the caption:
"This is one of the most difficult photos I will ever post, but if I'm not going to let NH Lymphoma cancer beat me, then I can't hide from it, either. It's your support that has brought me this far. I love all of you SO much!!!!! ♥ (09-26-12)"

The caring and support has been absolutely amazing. We put together a "card shower" for everyone to send cards on the same day to get there before a round of chemo as a booster. She ended up receiving over 160 cards, last time she had counted. I believe others were still trickling in. How amazing is that? Included in them were sticky notes of positive and motivational words. My plan is to make a board collage of them and place them around her house. 

There are also a couple fundraisers in place. A restaurant is donating a percentage of sales the Tuesday after Thanksgiving, a Tastefully Simple, Mary Kay, and Scentsy consultant are donating percentages of their sales from 'benefit parties' to her, and we have set up a donation site as well. With everything they are going through the last thing they should worry over is money to pay the medical bills. I want her to stay focused on her health and well being. I have already been able to pay multiple bills from the donations. What a community we have. So many people out there that truly care!

Please, keep her in your prayers. This is such an emotional roller coaster. Good days are great, but the bad days bring you to reality and fear. When I actually have time to think to myself. I ask WHY? Is this really happening? I want my mom back healthy and normal. I HATE this. It's not fair. It's one of those feelings where you want to kick and scream, but it gets you nowhere. I want to wake up from this nightmare. I hate that she has to go through this. 

Her fourth chemo is tomorrow. They will also check soon to see if the chemo is working. Those results are a very big deal and I'm just praying it comes back with the best possible news. I'm ready for her to win this battle. One step at a time... 


Amanda Ward said...

While clearing my tears I'm praying for you to have strength be strong for your mom, for she is prob more scarred for her children and husband than herself, I say this cause that's how my mom was before she had passed from battling paralysis for 4 years. Its only been 2 months and I cry most days missing her. Hang in there, your mom looks like a fighter! She will get through this :) xoxo
I know completely dif situations I just know how you r feeling seeing your mom so weak.

Lisa said...

Best wishes to you all during such a tough time. Can't even begin to imagine what you all are going through. Your mom looks awesome even without her hair!! What a strong woman (with great friends!!) and such an inspiration.

Allie said...

Praying for your mom and your family. I can't imagine going through this with my mom and my thoughts are with you.

Lauren said...

In Georgia and praying for yall. Your mother is absolutely gorgeous!

Stephanie said...

Wow, I teared up too as I saw that picture her friend posted. Your mom is a beautiful woman, inside and out. I know how hard it is to see her suffer and not feel her normal self, but I pray that the chemo is working and that one day soon she will be cancer free and back to living life the way she wants.

Kat said...

I am so sorry you and your family are going through this. I honestly have no words. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

m&msmommy said...

I can't even begin to imagine how this feels for you, your mother, or any of your family! I'm SO sorry you're all going through this! I will be praying!

Your mom looks absolutely beautiful!!!! Just gorgeous!

Southern Wifey said...

sending thoughts and prayers your way that the test results come back good.

the sweet life of a southern wife

dg darling said...

What beautiful women there are in this post! First you, with your sweet daughter heart. The love and concern you have for your mom is so inspiring and I know that your mom draws strength from your love. Second, her friend. To shave your head for your friend in today's very vane society speaks volumes about her compassion and friendship! And third, your courageous mom. I can actually see her fighting spirit in those pictures. I don't even know any of you but her character shines through her eyes! And honestly, that pic of her after shaving her head....she's gorgeous! I'm not just saying that! She really can pull off the no hair look! Between her perfectly shaped head and beautiful face she looks quite fabulous! I know she'd prefer to have hair but she really looks good bald! Anyway, prayers all around. For those who love her as she goes through this and for her as she fights:)

Kristin said...

Prayers from Georgia! You are a wonderful daughter to her and a wonderful mommy as well :)

Kaileigh said...

Your mother looks beautiful! She sounds like an amazing woman with amazing friends. I'm thinking of you and your family

The Barker's said...

Wow! I am so sorry to hear this about your mom!! Her pictures are so beautiful!! Such a strong woman! I will keep you all in my thoughts and prayers!!! No one should have to go through that!

Laura Delegal - Leroy Photography said...

So sorry to hear the struggles she is going through. She is a beautiful person. I had three close friends diagnosed with breast cancer within a 3-week period last year. All are finished with chemo and surgery and on the upswing. I pray all goes well and that you will be celebrating a thankful Thanksgiving tomorrow. God bless.

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